New York is infamous for their rude remarks, bluntness, and low tolerance for people. This is a foreign concept to me. Qatar has more foreigners than locals, and so people have learnt to be very welcoming, tolerant, and just nice in general. Some people may even consider it TOO nice, and people tend to “beat around the bush”—which can be annoying to some people. However, I would much prefer too much niceness to some of the rude attitudes I’ve received so far! How to deal with this kind of attitude? Ignore it. You can’t really change people’s attitudes if they’ve grown up thinking that this kind of attitude and response is normal. Just keep in mind, don’t change your attitude. People who are constantly around you learn and realize how being nice can go a long way.
The bluntness of some people can be very shocking; however, don’t let it bother you too much! It is difficult to not react negatively to the rude remark, but most of the time, people are not being rude to upset you, they are just rude and blunt because that is how they speak and respond! ALSO keep in mind some people don’t have this kind of attitude! This is usually just a stereotype that people associate with New York and/or the East Coast… AND I’m not trying to offend anyone, but it is something to be aware of and to brace yourself for! It is very different from the way people speak at home. I feel like it may be because a lot of the foreigners who are American are from the South, and they bring in that kind of attitude into the country. Another reason why I think this is the case, is because Arabic is quite a flowery and poetic kind of language. When they speak English, it could translate into a very descriptive and nice form of English, as opposed to being straight to the point. In any case, be true to yourself, and don’t let the bluntness intimidate you! It’s shocking, but it’s not with the intention of emotional harm; so keep in mind that being kind, and true to yourself is the best way to go. “Remember there’s no such thing as a small act of kindness. Every act creates a ripple with no logical end.”- Scott Adams.
TAKE AWAY LESSON:
“Be who you are and say what you feel because those who mind don’t matter, and those who matter don’t mind!” Be true to yourself and accepting of other and everything will fall into place.